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8 groups, learning together

4 groups from the UK, 4 from India. 24-30 participants in total, sharing a year of practice.

Online + in-person

Twice a month 3-hour online sessions plus three in-person gatherings in London and Bengaluru.

Building conflict infrastructure

Leave with tools, processes, skills, and shared language to move through future ruptures more generatively.

What is Before We Fall Apart?

Before We Fall Apart is a space for you to build confidence and skills in moving through conflict in ways that align with your values. It will provide you with consistent opportunities through the year to practice with your group, teach each other knowledge you might already hold, and build conflict transformation plans and infrastructures for your organisations, workplaces, families etc.
Co-facilitators Nishma and Dee will support groups to use and reflect on a range of tools with the aim of practicing using these tools together, and simultaneously build the way to move through future ruptures more generatively.

This is for you if:

You are a group of friends, housemates, co-workers, co-organisers, or a neighbourhood group - formal or informal, all welcome.

You want to move through conflict in ways that align with your values - whatever language you use for that

3-4 members of your group can commit to attending all sessions.

You want to actively participate in group learning spaces where we try things out and learn from each other, rather than rely on an expert teaching us ‘one right way’.

You can find ~2 extra hours per month for group work outside sessions.

You're not currently in any major active conflict or in deep trauma excavation within your group.

You have reflected as a group and decided this is the right moment for you to attend a participatory practice space like this.

You can participate comfortably in English (we recognise people may move between languages informally during sessions).

Who is this for?

Why do we need this?

Having been part of social justice movements for some time, we know that there can be no structural change without deep shifts in ourselves - shifts that uproot our ways of being and doing. How we are with each other matters, because it impacts what we design in the world.

We've increasingly witnessed, been part of, and been called to support relational breakdown at personal, interpersonal and collective levels. We've noticed how group cultures - leadership, decision-making, ways of working - are so often shaped by dominant systems: professional middle-class, white, male, heterosexual, capitalist, Global North standards. Even in our most radical groups, we can unknowingly replicate these norms.

Maybe some of this resonates with your group:

• We avoid conflict and harm, or come to see them as "normal" - until things erupt.

• We see power and structure as inherently bad, and move away from structure altogether, while existing power dynamics remain unnamed.

• We avoid conflict in the name of "being polite" or "maintaining calm."

• We encourage quick solutions and compromise, rather than slowing down to learn from our mistakes and tensions.

• We may allow harm to continue without accountability.

• We reach for punishment, exclusion or disposability - responses we've been taught by family systems, schools, workplaces, religious institutions and the state.

• When faced with hurt and harm, we don't know how to move back towards right relationship, or how to meet needs.

All of this can make transformation impossible. We stagnate, lose connection with each other, and eventually our movements collapse.

Before We Fall Apart is a space to build the capacities to skillfully navigate these ruptures together - to hold multiple truths, work across difference, and be accountable to one another beyond punishment or discarding each other.

What will we learn together?

Understanding Conflict

• Conflict values and culture

• Experiences with conflict

• Safety planning

• Supporting people with conflict and harm

• Supporting people in crisis

• Podmapping

• Structural harm

Practising Accountability

• Self accountability

• Interpersonal accountability

• Accountability in conflict transformation

Conflict Transformation

• Origins and contexts of conflict

• Responses to conflict & conflict styles

• Communication roadblocks and moving towards conflict transformation

• Conflict transformation planning with orgs and small groups

Building Capacity in your Group

• Scenarios

• Skills mapping

• Scenario roleplaying & reflections

• Relationships & map

• Structures

Mapping your Conflict Infrastructure

• TJ infrastructures

During our sessions, we will use group work, pair work, individual reflection, roleplay, worksheets, online hubs and resources, and printed workbooks. We will strive to make it all as seamless and clear for you as we can and we also appreciate your grace as we do this for the first time with very limited resources. Your feedback and support will always be welcome.

Some of the topics we are hoping to cover through the year are mentioned below. We may not necessarily cover these topics in a linear way but deepen our learning in a spiral to support a long term practice.

ORIENTATION
(online)

Thursday, 20 August
10am-11.30am BST / 2.30pm-4pm IST

CLOSING GATHERING
(in-person)

Saturday, 17 July
London, 10am–5pm BST
Bengaluru · 10am–5pm IST

Dates & Schedule

OPENING GATHERINGS
(in-person)

12 & 13 September
London, 10am–5pm BST
Bengaluru · 10am–5pm IST

SESSION 1 & 2
(online)

1 & 15 October
10am - 1pm BST / 2.30pm - 5.30pm IST

MIDWAY GATHERINGS
(in-person)

13 & 14 February
London, 10am–5pm BST
Bengaluru · 10am–5pm IST

SESSION 10
(online)

11 March
10am - 1pm BST / 2.30pm - 5.30pm IST

SESSION 3 & 4
(online)

12 & 26 November
10am - 1pm BST / 2.30pm - 5.30pm IST

SESSION 5 & 6
(online)

3 & 17 December
10am - 1pm BST / 2.30pm - 5.30pm IST

SESSION 7
(online)

14 January
10am - 1pm BST / 2.30pm - 5.30pm IST

SESSION 8
(online)

4 February
10am - 1pm BST / 2.30pm - 5.30pm IST

SESSION 9
(online)

25 February
10am - 1pm BST / 2.30pm - 5.30pm IST

SESSION 11 & 12
(online)

8 & 29 April
10am - 1pm BST / 2.30pm - 5.30pm IST

SESSION 13
(online)

20 May
10am - 1pm BST / 2.30pm - 5.30pm IST

SESSION 14 & 15
(online)

10 & 24 June
10am - 1pm BST / 2.30pm - 5.30pm IST

What is the cost?

The overall cost of designing, facilitating and producing this 12-month learning space comes to approximately £4,500 per group for the year. However, due to some funding received from Paul Hamlyn Foundation, we are able offer Before We Fall Apart at heavily subsidised tiered rates, which aligns with your funds and country.

You will be able to indicate in your application form which rate works best for you and/or if you need to apply for a partial or full scholarship. We will try our best to ensure groups can participate and are not turned away for lack of funds. We are happy to ideate together on ways forward.

Once you are offered a place, your group will be able to pay this as a lump sum or in quarterly installments.

£100 per month

£250 per month

£350 per month

UK - per month per group

Unfunded groups:

Funded groups:

Significantly funded

India - per month per group

Unfunded groups:

Funded groups:

Significantly funded

₹1500 per month

₹3500 per month

₹6000 per month

How do I apply?

You can apply by filling in this form by 23.59 (in your time zone) on 12 July 2026. Please note:

• We recommend you set aside some intentional time to review the key information and write this application form with your group.

• In general, we will not be able to provide extensions to this in order to honour the programme timeline.

• You only need to fill in one form per group.

You will hear back from us by w/b 20 July to arrange a conversation, and places will be confirmed by 1 August. We highly encourage you to hold all the dates in your diary in the meantime.

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